Saturday, January 28, 2012

Searching for Love in a Young Generation


High school relationships rarely make it past the double doors by graduation, early marriages are a rarity are aren’t expected to withstand the trials of time, and marriages due to an early, unexpected pregnancy are considered a faulty choice by those that watch.

Why is it so easy to fall in love as a young person, but so hard to make it last?

In the beginning, no one can separate you, in the end, no one can stand to be around you together.  You go asking for advice, should we stick it out? Something just isn’t there anymore… that spark seems to have an expiration date for most all teens and young-adult couples.

If you take a few steps back, it’s almost crazy NOT to see it:

Women of a younger age often walk around advertising everything the good lord gave them, and men can’t help but notice.  Girls at the beach lay and watch the shirt-less lifeguard from across the sand. 
When the ties are limited to titles such as “girlfriend” and “boyfriend,” the loyalty tends to wane here and there.  When you’re young and not completely committed, you can’t help but notice that there are just SO many choices out there. 
When there are two rings, four children, and sagging body parts involved, the effort to make things work becomes self-less.
Not everyone believes that there is only one other person out there for them anymore. 
Teens like to get wild, they indulge in clubbing, drinking, and as they come of age, their hormones are skyrocketing and physical appearance mean more than they really should, especially when it’s put out there so willingly.  Leaving very little to the imagination.
Others are so tempting, and you hear stories of cheating and disloyalty like people used to discuss the Sunday paper.
Some people just can’t handle being tied down, others give it a shot and still can’t help but notice the other options surrounding them.  Then there are the few that are devoted and dearly worth the risk.
Young life is the definition of drama, struggle, mistakes, and faulty judgment.
But it’s also the center of desire, risk, living, loving, and learning.

“You have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince.”

I always hated those words.  But their more often true than not.  Being raised as I was and being the personality I do, I’ve always known what I’ve wanted from a relationship.  I’ve always had my beliefs as to how they should work, the behavior to have and the actions to take when in one. 
Finding someone who mimics your beliefs is like finding a needle in a haystack.
Maybe harder.

The only advice I have, is good luck.
Keep your eyes open and your heart slightly closed.
Protect everything you have, and choose wisely.
Then choose more wisely every time there is a next time.

Love is a beautiful thing, but often mistaken.

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